A friend of mine recently got promoted to a high leadership position and was sharing with me how nervous and inadequate he felt about the position. Especially the responsibility of leading other established leaders within the organization.
He courageously accepted the position and I know he will do well.
One of the things I shared with him is The Law of Connection from The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership by John C. Maxwell, which says,
Leaders Touch a Heart Before They Ask for a Hand.
I suggested that one of the first things on his agenda should be to connect with the leaders on a personal and emotional level before he tries to lead them. Relationships are the foundation of leadership. And as a leader he should take responsibility to connect with people first rather than wait for them to connect with him.
Get to know and understand them and what they value. Listen to them, learn from them and connect with them before thinking about where it is you want to take them or what it is you want them to do.
John Maxwell says,
The moment that you connect: that’s the moment that you begin to move them in the right direction.
I’ve learned this the hard way because there are times in my leadership where I lost that focus and didn’t have the connection that I had with some of the people I was leading and they ended up parting ways with me.
It’s kind of like the husband who says, I don’t need to tell my wife I love her. She already knows that I love her because I told her so when we got married!
Leaders touch a heart and keep touching hearts before asking for a hand.