welcome to the club. The fact is we all do. The key is to maintain the right perspective.
Hey I’m sorry, if you’re like me; some of the mistakes we make may cause significant financial loss or serious pain and suffering and even lead to depression… What should our perspective be in these or any of our mess ups? How do I minimize the downside and make the best of my mistakes? Those are very good questions. While I don’t have all the answers, here are four suggestions that I have learned through personal experience.
First, stop and face reality, admit your mistake, take responsibility for it, discover the ramifications of it and do your best to remedy and deal with the situation. The key is to complete this process sooner than later. The more we prolong this, or if we never get around to it, the more our mistakes will hurt and haunt us.
Second, thank the Lord God for His provision of mercy and grace. Accept His unconditional love. Be comforted with the forgiveness of a God who does not condemn. Forgive yourself, and use this experience and learn to forgive others.
Third, recognize that it is not final. Learn from it; take the time to reflect on and analyze the thoughts and actions that led to the mistake. But do so with today in mind… Today is a new day with new opportunities, yesterday is behind us, we cannot go back there. But we can learn from it and apply the lessons today. It’s okay to make mistakes; nobody has done anything of significance without making mistakes along the way. Now we know one more thing that does not work and/or one more thing that we should not do…
Focus on and be grateful for what you have, not what you may have lost. Count your blessings, spend time with those who love and believe in you. Re-focus your goals and priorities and do your best to always keep them in front of you.
Fourth, figure out how you can use this to help others. Teach people and help them to not make the same mistakes. Encourage and guide those who make the same mistakes. Take advantage of the lessons that you have learned and bring the new more wise you to the community. Go out with this new knowledge and make a difference.
So you made some mistakes… please don’t waste them… make us the beneficiaries of your mistakes.