I remember being on a mentorship call with John Maxwell a couple years ago. A special call when only those in the mentorship program of the John Maxwell Team get to be on and to hear a little bit more about what John is doing and to ask him random questions.
On this particular call John said something that messed me up!
I’m not quoting him exactly here, but he said something along the lines of, If you’re not doing everything in your life with excellence, you’re not living a life of integrity.
“WHAT DID HE JUST SAY?” “HUH?” – “I guess I’m NOT living a life of integrity?!”
I’ve been around John Maxwell long enough to know that he is the real deal. And to know that he wouldn’t make a statement like that If he wasn’t living it.
And it frustrated me because I knew I couldn’t honestly say everything I was doing was being done with excellence.
I remember getting off that call around 10:00 pm that night so upset! I shared my frustrations with Edna, almost in tears. I was doing good in some areas of my life and not so good in others. But there wasn’t a lot of excellence going on in any area, if you know what I mean!
I went to sleep that night crying to myself and crying out to God. “I know this can’t only be for John Maxwell! What am I missing? What am I doing wrong or not doing? Maybe I’m not made for this! Maybe this is just for the chosen few???
The next morning I woke up thinking, “of course this could happen for me!” I understood that the main reason excellence wasn’t showing up more in my life was because I was trying to do too much.
John Maxwell always talks about how he is ‘worthless’ in most areas of his life except for when it comes to doing four things, and he usually goes on to name those four things. I figured out that this must be the reason he could make a statement like he did that night. He must really only do those four things and that’s why he could do them really well and allow others to fill the gaps for the other areas in his life.
Over the next couple days, two things came to me that I knew I could do right away and which I started working on with deeper meaning and awareness:
- I needed to build a really good team and inner circle around me.
- With people who share the same values as I do
- People who have a hunger to grow
- People who have a passion for excellence and for making a difference
- People who are really good at what they do
- And people whose strengths complimented mine
- Just as important, I also needed to stop trying to do too much. I needed to cut back on most of what I was doing and focus on the few areas that I could dedicate myself to doing really well.
One phone call, one challenging affirmation and statement that caused me to start a journey that’s transforming my life. I haven’t arrived yet but I’ve made great progress and getting better as we go along.