Like the time I was in elementary school and we had a drama tryout. I was so scared that I could hardly open my mouth, much less carry a note. I did not make the team, and had much regret over it. I have often wondered what might have been, had I mustered the courage and given myself a chance without worrying about what people thought.
Although I am a much more confident person today, this is an ongoing challenge. I don’t think you ever arrive. How about you? Have you allowed the fear of what others think and lack of confidence to paralyze, limit, or prevent you from doing something? Do you live with any regret? Here are five habits that will help you:
- Reassess yourself. YOU are SPECIAL. There is no one else like you. You posses a unique mix of talents, abilities, passion, personality and experience! Your value and potential are extremely higher than what you give yourself credit for. Reassess and take note of your uniqueness, value and potential.
- Develop yourself. Focus on growing personally, especially in the area of your strengths. Later in life, I took voice lessons at a community school and finally confirmed that I am not meant to be a singer. But In the process I have discovered what I am good at and focus my attention on developing and delivering in these areas. Discover and develop your strengths.
- Surround yourself with the right people. I once heard, if you’re the smartest person in your inner circle, you should change your inner circle. Surrounding yourself with people that are further along than you are will be uncomfortable, but will help you become a better, more confident person. Most of us grew up hearing our parents say, ‘Show me your friends and I will show you who you are’. If you’re a parent you’ve probably shared the same thing with your children.
- Challenge yourself. Develop the habit of facing your fears. Take one step at a time and just do it. You will be proud and discover that it wasn’t as bad as you thought.
- Be kind to yourself. Realize that you are a work in progress. Develop the habit of celebrating your achievements! Learn from your mess ups. Do not beat yourself up or put yourself down. Understand that your job is to fail, repeatedly, until you don’t.
How do you develop self confidence?